OUT OF EDEN
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By Ester Zazzaro
My Lover and I had entered the garden, which is more of a psychic dimension that materializes into external form based on how much it is visited together, in the bodies. I was starting to notice that this subtle dimension, while incredibly beautiful, was being overridden with coarser energies, more intense than both of us could hold.
We found ourselves both climaxing, (why I decided to join him, Nota Bene had nothing to do with pleasure, is another story and one to unpack for our client's deeper transformation sessions. It made it harder to merge together afterwards). While previous times I had been left alone in the garden, I could stay connected to the love between us and maintain the finer energy. When we are both kicked out of it, neither is holding a light for Love.
The first thing I noticed immediately afterwards is there was no buffer between us. The only way I can describe it is my brain had a chemical change, which I have since discovered is a very real scientific thing. There is evidence that when you have procreation sex (ejaculation for the purpose of making a baby) to the point of satiety, you will no longer be magnetized to this mate to continue the gene line. It’s been done.
Regardless, it hit me immediately that the man didn’t seem so attractive anymore and for him it comes about 12 hours later. Things got tense and irritable between us. He was shorter with his patience with me, which just shocked the living hell, no exaggeration, out of me from the place we had just come from. Every time he spoke in a disregarding tone, I would say, but you would have never said that to me or said it like that, which only increased his agitation.
Then it came flooding back, the emotional peaks and troughs, after the last orgasm and the clarity of what it had taken from both of us to really touch that heaven space. The start of the last accumulation of love inside us, required being so much bigger than our personality wanting to remain separate. After orgasm, it is very pronounced for about one to two weeks. The magnetism to make love and put the bodies together is significantly reduced. I was more on track that time too, able to sense from where we really exist. Back to Her. To my Sacred Portal.
During this week and a half, The Yoni has moved so little regardless of the level of focus I place on Her. Irrelevant of how much He presses on Her walls, She is still. She sparks to Herself, only very subtly underneath. I feel like She is initiating us even deeper. That we had come to take Her for granted. Somewhere I believed I was still the one controlling Her and the man believed he had discovered the right techniques that could fake his way, outside of his treatment of Her.
It has given me compassion for the women I work with in a way I haven’t had in a long time. His touch has felt rough again and ill-timed, the circuitry between us is turned way down and I am remembering what it feels like to experience intimacy with numbed sensation. Conventional sex erodes any chance to nurture sensation on a regular basis and I honestly don’t know how some women manage in this state.
We are on our way to fostering more light essence within ourselves and between us. Getting our bodies together to make love has been the hardest part and as we do it, regardless of our personal desires and resistance, I can feel the light entering again. I feel like people are not fully conscious of their lack of desire for each other after orgasm as we are not biologically designed to see it, and many people just distract themselves and get on with more practical things.
As a couple, if you are serious about knowing what it takes to be in love and stay there, you are a candidate to practice StillPoint Lovemaking™.
StillPoint Lovemaking™ is your gold and will help you see how to make the Golden Honey of the Yoni, keep it flowing, and Know what does and doesn’t contribute to its reserve.
We stay on the pulse in all the unseen and seen behaviors, playing out between the Lingam and Yoni.
When you know how to love make with your partner:
- You develop a trust between you, few couples realize, that sits outside of the personality.
- If you bring your bodies together and commit to our suggestions, your challenges feel softer to resolve.
- As a woman, you come to trust your own stillness and unwavering truth, anchored from the body, in interactions with men. There is more confidence, less doubt and knowing what you are doing each moment.
- You call forth the highest versions out of yourselves and in the both of you as a couple.
- There is more clarity in your purpose of making love together and birthing it materially, in the world.
- Your own wisdom drops in, clearer than before and you are less compromised by worldly cacophony. Why would you wait? Too many women care what their men think of them and not enough about the quality of love. If any slight discomfort in intimacy is present. Pressure on body parts, taste, smell, constriction or irritation most people shift what they are doing physically when in actuality it is an indication of energetic misfire.
Both people are in separate dimensions and it can be painful to face the truth of this, hence how uncomfortable it can feel. Faced however it must be, to bring the bodies back to real love between them. The one who feels it most must not brush it away. They are being given very real signs of how to attune and guide the experience to more fulfillment and deep essence contact.
Restoring our garden can feel pretty vulnerable and exposed. I feel myself softening here, and there's also an underlying rough edge being sanded down as his presence holds still. He has a capacity to receive every facet of (his) Woman's expression and still hold unwavering love, so I am privileged to unearth some pretty yucky stuff that many of us are still embedded with. This is a natural part of the lovemaking process because of what it demands couples to bump up against. This morning we came upon The Lineage of the Sacred Prostitute inside Her and we briefly discussed what we discover, which I know some people will be curious about.
Pure lovemaking is the epitome of rich and deep fulfillment running through the body without doing a single thing to achieve it. Here in 1896 a self-published female author discusses the pitfalls of frequent (striving) orgasm without procreation. Interestingly, the Vatican condemned this entire genre, and all writers suggesting what they termed a 'reserved embrace’.
The man and I discovered this truth, before the book materialized into our awareness.
It is definitely a Kingdom of Heaven and apparently not one the Vatican is interested in showing you. It could be said some discover the truth and then the science presents:
The ordinary hasty spasmodic method of cohabitation, for which there has been no previous preparation, and in which the wife is passive, is alike unsatisfactory to husband and wife. It is deleterious both physically and spiritually. It has in it no consistency as a demonstration of affection, and is frequently a cause of estrangement and separation.” wisdom of the ages by Karezza (Stockham)
During a lengthy period of perfect control, the whole being of each is merged into the other, and an exquisite exaltation is experienced. This may be accompanied by a quiet motion, entirely under subordination of the will, so that the thrill of passion for either may not go beyond a pleasurable exchange. Unless procreation is desired, let the final propagative orgasm be entirely avoided.
With abundant time and mutual reciprocity the interchange becomes satisfactory and complete without emission or crisis. In the course of an hour the physical tension subsides, the spiritual exaltation increases, and not uncommonly visions of a transcendent life are seen and consciousness of new powers experienced . . . .
Men who are born down with sorrow because their wives are nervous, feeble and irritable, have it in their power, through Karezza, to restore the radiant hue of health to the faces of their loved ones, strength and elasticity to their steps and harmonious action to every part of their bodies. By manifestation of tenderness and endearment, the husband may develop a response in the wife through her love nature, which thrills every fiber into action and radiates tonic to every nerve. Be patient and determined; the reward will come in happy, united lives, in the finding of the kingdom of heaven in your own hearts.”-
Stockham, Karezza: Ethics of Marriage.
What's even more innately in-built in our system is the capacity for a tangible love to stream personality fragments out of the field, by making love through the intelligence encoded in the genitals.
There's no bypassing because you clearly see both channels and one path feels so buoyant, so light, that your conditioning is haloed in a flotation tank of golden clarity of where it is not You.
People talk about trauma bonding but what they don't illuminate is that those same people simultaneously have all the healing pathways etched into their energetic templates waiting to be transmitted, through loving each other's bodies. Their trauma bonding story originates in the mind and what they bypass is their lovemaking medicine for each other.
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